I’m almost a dad! My wife is due at the end of September with our baby girl, and I start medical school on August 12. Therefore, while I still have some free time in my life, I decided to do some “educational reading” about being a dad! More specifically, I decided to read about being a dad of a little girl.
I started reading the book Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know by Meg Meeker, MD yesterday evening and I already finished it today. Overall, I thought it was an excellent read and very informative. Boys and girls are extremely different, so why would raising them be the same? This book does an excellent job of explaining the important qualities a father should possess and behavior he should exhibit when raising a girl. I made a lot of highlights throughout the book that I plan to look over from time to time in the future. Although the book is aimed more at raising daughters from age 2 and up, the information was still interesting and helpful for dads-to-be (or even just guys who plan to have kids). The book seems well-researched with a pretty substantial amount of statistical data, and the author is a pediatrician who provides actual patient experiences related to the topics discussed. I definitely recommend this to any girl dads or girl dads-to-be out there!
Here are just a few of the quotes I enjoyed from the book:
“You were made a man for a reason, and your daughter is looking to you for guidance that she cannot get from her mother.”
“But I will tell you that no research paper, no textbook diagnosis, no instructions can begin to change a young girl’s life as dramatically as even a handful of interactions with her father. Nothing.”
“Daughters’ reactions to words, actions, and situations are more complex, reflective, and diverse than those of fathers. She will read a litany of possible meanings into everything you do. When you buy your daughter a bracelet for her birthday, you’ll think of it as a straightforward gift. But she will think of it as fraught with meaning, good or bad.”
“But researchers now know that some girls don’t develop adult cognitive skills until their early twenties.”
“Being a father means giving up your time without resentment.”
“Think about the kind of dad you want to be. Sure, it will take hard work. But love isn’t just about feeling good. It’s about doing what you don’t want to do, over and over again, if it needs to be done, for the sake of someone else. Love is really about self-sacrifice.”
The quotes above are actually all within the first 3 chapters too, so there are a lot more throughout the rest of the book!